Many
of Us Have Been Raped
At one of my
speaking engagements this summer, a radiant woman asked me about healing the wound around a past rape.
If this is
your experience, run, don’t walk, to a highly recommended therapist. My therapist helped me understand the energy
drain around SHAME.
Here is a powerful exercise that also helped
me heal my own date rape experience from my college days:
Think of 2 people who, in your mind, are the models for ideal parents. It doesn't matter
if they are your age. Just pick parents who are supportive, understanding, proactive, and aware.
Visualize the traumatic event up until the act of penetration.* Visualize the setting, the
time, what you were wearing.
At the moment you are about to be violated, have your new "model parents" arrive on the scene.
How would they handle things? How would the violence be interrupted? How would you be comforted and assured that it was not
your fault?
How would you be nurtured afterwards? Would the parents go with you to a wonderful counselor?
How would they help you put a safety plan in place?
* If this is too painful for a healing visualization, then get to a therapist. Professional
help can offer a new perspective on life.
Award winning author Alice Sebold wrote the book Lucky about her own
rape experience and how it impacted her life. My friend can't put it down...I'm currently reading her other book, The
Lovely Bones. It,too,is about a traumatic event riveting. It was not upsetting to read, however, and had a happy
ending. I couldn't put it down. To order either book, click here.
